Change the script

Rewrite the script!

We all have an inner dialog. It may be conversations we want to have, or don’t want to have, to stressing over that to-do list. This inner dialog sometimes doesn’t always work in our favor, but with effort it can.

Example: You hurt your finger. Now every time you touch it, it hurts. So what do I do? We keep touching or bumping it. And what happens? It remains irritated or even continues to get worse.

When our minds start to repeat “scripts” or thoughts/ conversations over and over again. It can have physical / emotional responses. “I’m so tired.” Over and over again. Then I start to make more mistakes, equaling more work, or “validating” that I am tired. I've be consumed with this thought that it’s no wonder I am not preforming to my best and making mistakes.  I'm not focused on work!

Here is a personal example of the impact of such scripting.

I was at work (I had multiple jobs at the time). I had a lot on my plate, bult I was really excited about how things were going. I was learning, gaining lots of personal development. I was seeing dreams come true. However, because of this growth period, I was drained emotionally and physically. I found myself showing up to work and stating “oh, I’m good, but I’m really busy. I’m feeling a bit burned out” The more I talked with coworkers and went on with my shift, the more I was stressed out about my to-do list and the things that needed to be done for my other job. I found myself leaving with a headache and lots of anxiety.

When I was home that night and reflecting, I realized a few things. First, I can do this. I have made time, and I’m keeping balanced expectations. Why do I feel so anxious? Second, that my “script” doesn’t match my truth. I started journaling, then found it! The more I kept saying “I’m just so busy.” or “I’m really worn out.” Or “I’ve got so much going on, and I’m so tire” The more it became true EMOTIONALLY.

I dug deeper to find my honest truth. I was pushing myself, but not too hard. I was making time to eat, sleep, and relax every day. What was it that I really wanted my friends and coworkers to understand? I wanted to express that I was tired, to explain my lack of energy and enthusiasm. I wanted them to respect my personal growth, and what I was achieving. It then dawned on me that if I communicate what I want them to understand, I could stop the script that was draining me.

The next day at work I did just that. Instead of sharing the old “I’m tired” I shared “I’m good, I just….” And would share new skills, achievements, or journeys I was on. What happened? I actually felt really proud of myself and had more energy. My coworkers responded with respect or advice to help and followed with “you must be really busy and tired” In turn giving me the sympathy I was seeking.

In the end, check your “script”. What thoughts are you repeating/ sharing? What do these words accomplish? What is it that you want to accomplish? Why?  Keep asking yourself why. Once you discover answers, look for ways to change your approach and rewrite your script to reflect your goals and dreams.

When I journal during times of deep reflection I will often diffuse oils depending on the emotions that are associated with the circumstance. Here are some examples:

Bergamot for self-acceptance, white fir for possible generational issues, Lemongrass for clearing, rosemary for adjusting and transitioning to name a few. I highly smelling oils as you journal, and rotate the oils.